Ask for the feedback in writing, with specifics. Say: "From now on, please put each piece of buyer feedback in writing — which buyer, what they'd offer, and the exact objection." Real feedback comes with names, numbers and offers; conditioning is vague, second-hand, and always points one direction: down.
Why they're saying it
Conditioning works because it arrives as "just passing on what buyers said." Once an agent has won your listing — sometimes with an inflated appraisal — they need your price expectation to meet the market, so they feed you a steady drip of negatives ("the road is busy," "the bedrooms feel small") framed in the buyers' words rather than their own. It feels like honesty; it functions as anchoring.
The tell is direction and specificity. Genuine market feedback varies and comes with detail — actual offers, named buyers, concrete objections you can act on. Conditioning is one-directional, second-hand, and never comes with a number you can hold them to.
What to say back
"I want to help buyers where I can — so from now on, please put each piece of feedback in writing: which buyer, what they'd offer, and the specific objection. If it's actionable, I'll act on it."
"I hear the feedback. Before I move on price, show me the written offers that support it. If buyers are near my number, let's negotiate the real ones — not adjust to feedback with no offer attached."
"When we listed, you were confident about the price. What's changed in three weeks — the market, or the strategy? Walk me through the comparable sales you're using now."
Avoid these reactions
- Dropping your reserve after a week of vague negatives, before a single written offer.
- Treating "the buyers said" as fact instead of asking to see it in writing.
- Blaming the property and re-anchoring yourself lower than any buyer actually did.
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